"I have a lot of mental health issues, and I could handle them alone, but my Dad makes it impossible. He yells at me and threatens me even though he knows it triggers me. He refuses to help me when I ask him (I.e. When I need help cleaning my room) and then yells even more when I don't do it right. I don't know what to do. And then, after he threatens me and shit, he acts like nothing is wrong. I could be on the ground, crying, and he doesn't even react. And I don't know what to do..."
Asked by Anonymous
So, my dad was just like 2 years ago. You are describing him to a tee. He didn’t understand my mental illnesses. The thing that changed him was when I started therapy. He learned a lot about depression, anxiety, BPD, and others. He started to become a lot more understanding and now he is a totally different dad. He helps me rather than hinder me. Do you have someone else who lives with you who knows whats going on? Like a sibling or other parent? I think that with enough understanding, he can change. But if he is anything like mine was, he will need more than you to start to understand. Do you see a therapist? If so, talk about doing a family session with him. If not, I would find a way to get one. I think that will help you and your dad the most. You can talk to a school councilor too. Ill leave some links below that could help you.
Just know that he probably just doesn’t understand. You could help him to understand in a few different ways. Email him links, find information, etc. Be creative. What he says and does does not define YOU. You define you. And try to not let him invalidate you and what is going on with you.
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